In her 10 years at the Center for Sexual Health Promotion at Indiana University, codirector Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., M.P.H., has studied intercourse from every angle. Most recently she asked how couples use lubricant in the sack. The study is ongoing, but here’s what Herbenick has found so far: Nearly half of women find it easier to reach orgasm with lube. That’s reason enough, she says, to keep a water-based formula, like Good Clean Love in your nightstand.
By far the biggest category of adult products, after pornography, is the production and sale of vibrating toys. The majority, over 70%, are made in China and sold all over the world with a remarkable lack of oversight. Trojan, the condom-maker, recently estimated that the US market alone is worth $1 billion. These estimates are probably conservative given that the industry is largely made up of privately held companies who are not required to report market specific data.
While there has been some press on the bad effects of vibrators and the dependence that some women develop on them for being able to find orgasm, they have also been profoundly instrumental in allowing women to have an orgasm in the first place. In fact, a little bit of recently uncovered history has linked the invention of vibrators to Victorian physicians who were treating women for “hysteria” by bringing them to orgasm. These physicians were looking for a way to speedup to process so that they could see more patients per day and the vibrator answered the call. For years, these items were sold as medical devices, no stigma attached. The documentary “Passion and Power: the Technology of Orgasm” tells the story of both the development of vibrators and their influence on the female experience of orgasm.
The range of options for novelty items available is dizzying…One can find products in every color, shape, and size imaginable. The materials also vary from plastic to titanium to wood to glass. The varieties of vibrators and dildos alone can be overwhelming; clitoral, missile, waterproof, and vibrating erection rings are just the tip of the iceberg. It can be hard to know where to start. Before choosing an item, it is a good idea to take some time to research how to choose a toy. The sex-positive store, Good Vibrations, offers comprehensive advice on how to choose the right toy. They sell many eco sex products (made from the right materials) on their site, as do our friends at Jimmy Jane and Seattle Green Toys.
The majority of adult products are made with plastics. Sadly, the lack of regulation and oversight in this industry has created a glut of products which have been found to be extremely dangerous, with both low quality ingredients and bad plastics which off-gas and leak nasty chemicals. This video by Treehugger.com has the low-down! http://planetgreen.discovery.com/videos/tree-hugger-tv-shopping-for-an-eco-sex-toy.html
European studies of adult toys have shown extremely high levels of off- gassing of dangerous chemicals like phthalates in very high concentrations and that even in small levels have been linked to cancer and damage of the reproductive system. Being an intelligent and conscious consumer of adult products is an absolute necessity in this unregulated market- so please consider this a health warning and ask about the ingredients and the coating on the soft jelly and “cyber skin” items which are popular and often made with cheap PVC. As bad as these ingredients may be for the environment, they are even worse for sensitive tissue.
There are some really great eco friendly and safe adult toys to use that can add excitement and novelty to the bedroom. As in any industry, you get what you pay for, and when I first brought home some cheap vibrators, my husband was uninspired to say the least. So be prepared to invest in toys that are responsibly made, luxuriously beautiful, functional and long lasting. Moving up in price point, moves you from shopping for a vibrator to selecting a pleasure object… a distinction definitely worth the investment!
A couple of my favorite companies in the mid and upper price ranges include two European manufacturers, The German manufacturer Fun Factory and the Swedish manufacturer Lelo. Both of these companies offer a wide range of styles and shapes to engage most any couple. These more upscale vibrators use plug in chargers instead of batteries and offer much quieter motors with up to 16 different speed variations. You can find many of their products in the Toy section of our site, along with high-quality, body-safe products from other manufacturers.
Accessories can get your imagination rolling and as Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge”. Certainly when it comes to physical intimacy, allowing our imaginations a bit of free reign can only help to unleash some undiscovered passion. I have become a vibrator aficionado, always ready to expand my repertoire to include more and different sensations and my beautiful Lelos provide inspiration and some new ideas to explore what had been uncharted territory. Which is the point of all the millions of dollars of adult novelties: finding more and better ways to share deep personal pleasure that is the glue for holding all of the messy parts of loving relationships together.
–Wendy Strgar, Lovelogist, Good Clean Love
“Good Clean Love has become the preferred lubricant of most of my peri- and postmenopausal patients since I have suggested it in my gynecologic practice. It is smooth, long-lasting, and best of all, free of unnatural ingredients. I can recommend it with confidence.”
Jan H Stafl MD, FACOG, Eugene OR
“These love products really will transform your erotic experience. The sensuousness and quality of the products is far superior to any other product on the market. As a certified sex therapist these are the only products that I recommend. Being all natural, the organic properties and range of delicious scents inspire deep intimacy. Never overpowering, they work with your body’s own chemistry. The right products can make all the difference in the world in achieving deep intimacy and heights of ecstasy. My clients rave about your products.”
Michelle Sugg, Certified Sex Therapist, Connecticut
“The Good Clean Love products are fantastic. I will be featuring them in an upcoming e-letter. Thank you. “
Christiane Northrup, M.D.
“I wanted to let you know how much my patients of all ages appreciate your product (good clean love). It has helped many of my patients from their early 20′s into their 70′s with their dysparunia and pelvic pain issues. Your work has been a gift to many women.”
Tamara Stenshoel M.D. FACOG
“When clients ask me what personal lubricant I suggest, one brand comes to mind. Good Clean Love. Because Good Clean Love uses organic ingredients from sustainable sources, and because their products feel and taste great – without having the dangerous amounts of glycerin that other companies use, I recommend GCL’s products above all others. And if an adult boutique wants me to send my clients there, one of the ‘weeding out’ questions I ask is, ‘What lubes do you carry?’ If they don’t carry GCL, I’ll think twice before sending anybody to their store. My advice as a sexologist is: don’t just ask for any lubricant. Ask for Good Clean Love by name. It’s good for you, your partner, and the Earth – that’s a menage-a-trois worth celebrating!”
Eric Marlowe Garrison, MAEd, MSc (London), AASECT-Certified Sex Counselor
“I am a Director Women’s Health at the Marino Center for Integrative Health in Cambridge Massachusetts and would love to have information and samples of your Good clean love lubricant available for my patients.
This is the best lubricant I have used and want to get the word out. I find the best way is to have a small sample available for patients to use. After the first experience I think my patients will be hooked.”
Deb Morrill, Director Women’s Health at the Marino Center for Integrative Health in Cambridge Massachusetts
“We have been getting very positive feedback from our patients about your lubricant samples we have been giving to them: i.e. very well tolerated, no burning, no irritation. We are happy to be able to provide your products to our patients. Thanks so much for you help and dedication to the comfort and pleasure for women, especially those struggling with dyspareunia!”
Susan Kellog, MD, OBYN * Jennifer Fariello, MSN, RNC, CRNP, The Pelvic and Sexual Health Institutes
“As a sexual medicine gynecologist and sexual counselor, that specializes in female pelvic health, I am often faced with a range of female sexual dysfunction issues. One of the most effective lubricants that I recommend for persistent vaginal dryness and pain is the Good Clean Love brand personal lubricants. Even among my most sensitive patients, including cancer survivors, these lubricants are well tolerated and permit my patients to have a positive sexually satisfying sexual and sensual experience.
I recommend Good Clean Love products because they are natural, organic and healthy alternatives to the petrochemical products that dominate the market.”
Dr. Michael Krychman, Executive Medical Director, Southern California Center for Sexual Health and Survivorship Medicine
“Love the blog! I regularly forward the articles to patients. I appreciate the positive uplifting discussions that revolve around healthy intimacy! Keep them coming.”
Brevan B Baugh ND, Peterson Wellness Center
“This has been a great alternative to my patients with sensitive skin.”
Heather Jeffcoat, DPT, The Pilate PT
“We love the Good Clean Love! Patients have given us good feedback as well. We have seen less issues with vaginal irritation that we will see from other lubricants as well.”
Tamara Cullen, ND, Naturopathic Family Medicine
“I appreciate the samples and my clients are very happy with the Good Clean Love lubricant. The feedback I receive is that it has a texture and quality that is quite unique and pleasant to use. It has been especially favored by menopausal women although I also work with post-op transsexuals who have been very pleased with it.
Thank you so much. I also greatly enjoy the newsletter and share it with my students as well.”
Carol L. Clark, Ph.D., LMHC, CAP
“Thank you for the gift of your book….I read it all the way home…haven’t finished it yet, however, what a wonderful and thoughtful book it is!!!! We are a lot alike!!!! Your book is filled with wisdom, not only about relationships, but, about how to live life in an authentic way. The intimacy you speak of is the intimacy of life.
Sally Valentine, PhD, FAACS, LCSW, AASECT Certified Supervisor and Sex Therapist
Body Candy is fun in a jar. Adding yummy flavors to oral pleasure wakes up the limbic brain where our fantasy life is waiting. Body candy loves the most sensitive areas of the body. Our intriguing flavor combinations create tingling hot and cold sensations that enliven the meaning of kissing. Body candy is to oral sex as condiments are to your favorite foods- fries without ketchup? Shrimp without cocktail sauce? Fettuccini without Alfredo?
If oral sex is more a chore than a pleasure for you to perform, consider how adding some new flavor to the act might be the missing ingredient. I have met my share of sexual purists over the years who say that the “au naturel” scent of their lover is all they need. Not me. Adding body candy doesn’t only spice up the skin’s aromas, it also adds a creamy glide.
Try this: start with a kiss. Apply your favorite body candy to the lips and have your lover lick your fingers. See how long you can linger on the scent of that kiss. Try it on nipples, behind the ears, the nape of the neck. Take your time and inhale your partner at each of these locations. When you can’t wait any longer, try it down low. Combine our body candies freely with fantasy play. Whether you go all out with costumes and props or just allow yourself to tap into the fantasy going in your head while you make love, explore the new doorways that scent and skin will open. Don’t worry about what it means or what is normal, just ride your fantasy like a dream and be amazed at how much pleasure lives inside of you. With time you might want to share fantasies or play them out, but truly just even looking at them is really playful.
Oral sex is one of the most mysterious pleasures we practice together. Thinking about it only serves to keep it at arm’s reach. Circumventing our rationale and dominant brain with erotic flavors lets you smell your way into the mystery. Consider it the direct path to your arousal mechanism.
Reinvent oral pleasure with Good Clean Love Body Candy- you will be glad you did.
–Wendy Strgar, Loveologist
Love oil, by its nature is a sensuous commodity. As you rub it lovingly on someone you love, the scent merges into the feeling of skin. Touch is a mysterious language with few words that accurately contain its meaning. Combining scented oil with the perfectness of naked skin is what erotica was built on.
My husband, Franc, coined the term “smoking me/you” to describe the practice of inhaling your lover’s scent. Try this: apply a generous amount of love oil to lips and face, coming all the way up to the nose. Coming in close enough to kiss your partner, so you can feel their breath on your face, and inhale. Close your eyes and focus all your attention on scent. Notice how scent penetrates beyond your conscious thoughts. Take 5 breaths. Move in slowly and brush your lips on the smooth soft glide of chin, cheek. Eyes closed, search for lips. See if you can feel the moment when your limbic brain begins to fire a burst of neuron activity. See if you can physically notice the moment when your sexual drive is triggered.
Good Clean Love oil scents are exotic and erotic combinations from across the globe. We employ many of the oldest recorded aphrodisiac oils that have been revered for centuries in our formulations. Not surprisingly many of these exquisite scents have been more valuable than gold for their arousing properties. Each of our scents combines the sensuous history of faraway lands and exotic aromas, literally transporting your intimate experience.
It is hard to smoke your lover for very long, before you are compelled to kiss. Love oil turns an ordinary kiss into a conversation. Scent enlarges all sensory experience at least ten fold. Lips, tongue, and breathe are all magnified within the shadow of aroma. Paying attention to this most precious and private language of intimacy nourishes your relationship in ways that no speaking conversation can. Let the kiss envelop your body. Be generous with love oil all over your lover’s body. Feel the weight of your hand as it glides over curves. Add pressure to the length of a leg. Try only finger tips down the torso. All the time, keep your mind focused on scent. How does your lover’s body smell on the chest, belly, and genitals? Love oil will continue to change all over the body and like notes of music; you will be inhaling different combinations of scent.
Love oil smells different on everyone who wears it and creates a unique scent bridge between you and your partner. Knowing your relationship through scent is a unique way to reconsider all that you thought you knew and recognize all that remains mysterious about the one you love.
–Wendy Strgar, Lovelogist, Good Clean Love
Here is the first and most important thing to know about using personal lubricant: It will perform at its best when you reach for the bottle until you can’t wait another minute. Said differently, a good personal lubricant is a penetration device, which means that it offers a slippery glide to extend and comfort intimate friction. It gives you more time to try different positions and reminds the body about the power of secretions. All of these are valuable attributes of a good, clean healthy lubricant.
Here is what lubricant doesn’t do: It doesn’t turn on your arousal mechanism. Lubricant doesn’t help you find your sexy internal space that fires up to welcome someone into the deepest part of you. Lubricant, even the best in the world, will not prevent you from having pain if you are not ready to be penetrated. Readiness, opening and arousal are the pre-qualifying events for good lubricant performance.
It is understandable that many people believe that personal lubricant is the answer to every sexual issue. Some of my biggest competitors spend tens of millions of dollars every year falsely advertising that fallacy and using a ton of nasty petrochemicals to drive it home. The advertising success is due in part to to the overwhelming desire that most of us have for great sex, as well as an acceptance for the “need” of lubricant.
Over 80% of the US population has used lubricant at some point. Pay attention to the ingredients in your lubricant. Much of the intimacy product market is still dominated by petrochemical- based products with carcinogenic preservative systems. Respect the most sensitive tissue in your body with natural and organic ingredients.
And here is the best advice still: don’t rush it. Take this dare- double the time of your foreplay activity and then reach for a bottle of lube. You will be amazed how the longer you wait, the better it is.
–Wendy Strgar, Loveologist
Medical Studies support the fact that an active sex life leads to a longer and happier life. Using green products that can both increase libido and enhance sexual experiences have a far reaching affect on your overall health and well being. Benefits include:
- Stronger immune response
- Better heart health
- Reduction of chronic pain
- Lower incidence of depression
- Decreased fear and anxiety and have a greater sense of well-being
Healing Power of Love
Physical intimacy doesn’t just feel good…. Making love is good for you as shown by hundreds of major medical studies. These studies are suggesting that an active sexual life may lead to a longer life, better heart health, a healthier immune response, reduction in chronic pain symptoms, lower rates of depression and even protection against some cancers.
The key to many of these qualitative life-shifts from lovemaking is the release of oxytocin, which influences everything from regulation of body temperature to wound healing, pain-relief, and the development of emotional bonds.
Lovemaking is also an excellent form of aerobic exercise which tones the heart, can burn as much as 200 calories, and is equivalent to running for 30 minutes. Studies show that men who have sex twice per week have half as many heart attacks as men who have sex only once per month. In fact, a regular love life has been shown to extend one’s life by as much as ten years.
Frequent lovemaking also boosts levels of immunoglobulin, key immune cells that fight infection. These physical effects are matched by the powerful emotional healing of lovemaking. A strong sex life will calm anxiety, ease fears and break down inhibitions. Sexually active people are also significantly less vulnerable to depression and suicide. In addition, sexual activity dulls the chronic pain of migraines, arthritis and back pain.
So go ahead, enjoy some good clean fun.
Good Clean Love is a certified Coop America Green Company that sells only the finest all natural and organic green products for your health and sexual enhancement. The majority of personal lubricants on the market are made with petrochemicals and preserved with methyl and propyl parabens. Good Clean Love personal lubricants are organic and we use only natural ingredients that not only feel good, but are good for you. Read more about our organic personal lubricants.
Organic and Sustainable Solutions to Sexual Dysfunction Issues
Recent research studies have shown that over 43% of women have suffered from some level of sexual dysfunction at least once in their lives. Female sexual dysfunction is an elusive issue, encompassing everything from loss of arousal response, to pain during sex. For many women, sexual dysfunction is a challenging topic to discuss, leaving many to feel isolated without hope of resolution. This problem is further exacerbated by the lack of high quality, healthy products that help to improve physical intimacy and arousal response.
Common Issues of Female Sexual Dysfunction and Menopause
Vaginal dryness ranks as one of the top ten problems afflicting women with sexual dysfunction as reported by over 40% of women who have pain with sex. Certain activities including menopause, childbearing & nursing, certain medications, even high stress levels can often be the cause of vaginal dryness and its associated pain in sex. The most common cause of vaginal dryness is declining estrogen production, which leadsto thinning and drying of the vaginal wall. Other factors include reduced muscle tone and the longer time needed for sexual arousal.
Lack of Arousal Response
Dealing effectively with the physical pain associated with sex is not just a mental issue. The production of natural lubrication serves as an important emotional and mental cue for sexual arousal. When this lubrication function is compromised, the primary internal messaging system for our libido is lost.
Pain During Physical Intimacy
Pain during physical intimacy is often caused by irritation of the mucous tissues from lack of sufficient lubrication or the use of synthetic lubrication containing petrochemicals and parabens which further irritate these sensitive tissues. A lack of vaginal lubrication can make intercourse painful. Women who suffer from vaginal dryness often dread intercourse and avoid sex as a result. It is no wonder many women suffering vaginal dryness experience a drop-off in libido.
The Good Clean Love Solution
All Natural and Organic Lubricants
Our lubricants mimic the natural mucous produced within the body. Without the use of petrochemicals and parabens, they provide long lasting lubrication without additional irritation to the mucous tissues. As a member of the Campaign for Safe Cosmetics – a branch of the Breast Cancer Fund, all of our love products are petrochemical and parabens free – which have been identified as potentially carcinogenic and identified in breast cancer tissues.
Creating a Sensuous Bridge
Our natural love oils respond to the body chemistry of each individual and are blended with therapeutic grade essential oil formulas that activates and strengthens the neural-biological pathways to the limbic system of the brain, where the arousal mechanism is situated, creating a “scent bridge” between partners.
Activating the Arousal Response
By stimulating the arousal mechanism through scent and providing a natural substitute to a women’s own lubrication, pain during sex becomes a distant memory. The mind-body connection functions in both directions and the body can teach the mind.
Good Clean Love promotes sustainable love for couples by providing both organic and healthy products and educational tools for couples to work through the emotional and physical issues that keep them from the relationship that they long for.
The Importance of Ingredients
The Benefits of Good Clean Love Organic Personal Lubricants
The water base of our organic formula is infused with real herbs and flowers (organic vanilla beans and organic cinnamon chips, organic lavender petals and organic rose buds, organic peppermint ), creating true, deep scents. This infused water is blended with Aloe Vera, Agar Agar (seaweed), and Xanthan Gum to create a smooth, long-lasting glide. We use a three tiered preservative system including a naturally activated enzymatic formula which continuously preserves in the bottle ( glucose, glucose oxidase and lactoperioxidase), less than 10% vegetable glycerin, benzoic acid.
Our organic lubricants respond to a women’s own natural internal moisture, water, or kisses with increased glide. Enjoy our organic lubricants and say goodbye to sticky, messy residue on the skin.
All of our organic lubricants are safe to use with condoms, toys, and throughout pregnancy. 99.9% Vegan—no animal products, no animal testing.
Our organic lubricants are the cleanest, truly natural, water-based personal lubricants on the market. All of our lubricants are free of propylene glycol, parabens, synthetic fragrance or other petro-chemicals!
Harmful Chemicals Found in Most Personal Lubricants
The vast majority of personal lubricant and other topical sexual enhancement products are made with chemicals originally invented for industrial uses, not for the body. Many people have adverse reactions to these toxic chemicals, and don’t understand why. We believe education of our customers is essential. The following list includes the top 5 ingredients, sourced through MSDS (material safety data sheets) on the web; we encourage you to do more research.
Used as humectants. Found in automatic and hydraulic brake fluid. Used to make industrial anti-freeze and de-icing solution for cars, airplanes, and boats. Used as a solvent in paint and plastic industries. Also used to make polyester compounds. May be harmful by ingestion, inhalation, or through skin contact. Irritating to the eyes and skin.
Methylparabens and Propylparabens
Used as preservatives. Parabens are currently under scrutiny as they have been identified as estrogenic and disruptive of normal hormone functions; many studies are linking them with breast cancer tumors.
Used as a thickener. Strips the skin’s natural moisture. An eye irritant, possible carcinogen and can produce severe acidosis, central nervous system damage and congestion. It is recommended to avoid all unnecessary exposure to the chemical substance and ensure prompt removal from skin, eyes and clothing.
Used as a preservative. Harmful if swallowed, inhaled, or absorbed through the skin. May cause reproductive defects. Severe eye and skin irritant.
Used as a thickener. The first of these compounds has been shown to cause cancer in animals. Inhalation of these products could cause chemical pneumonia. They have been shown to cause antibody reactions.
Creating a Sensuous Bridge
The scent of desire, it turns out has more to do with our biological imperative than we might have ever imagined. Our sense of smell and what attracts or repels us, is blueprinted in the immunological gene structure called the MHC. Every individual’s own genetic scent makeup is as unique as their fingerprint. MHC compatibility is a predictor of not only bearing healthy offspring, but relationship longevity. Even more remarkable than the biological compatibility of scent between partners is the new recognition that our ability to smell is completely intertwined with our ability to feel.
“Our sense of smell and our emotional experience are fundamentally interconnected, bi-directionally communicative and functionally the same.”
Waking up the Arousal Response with Good Clean Love Oils
Love Oils are aphrodisiac blends of therapeutic grade essential oils in a base of apricot kernel and organic jojoba oil. Unlike fragrance oils, essential oils register in the limbic part of the brain, where sexuality, memory, and emotion are stored.
As the Love Oils are inhaled and the layers of scent registered in the brain, the brain chemistry is actually changing, so that both partners are sharing the same experience. The scents are layered from top to bottom, it may take ten minutes for the brain to register all the scents in any given blend.
Good Clean Love Oils respond to each individual’s personal chemistry and pheromones, so the scents are distinct and change according to where they are used on the body. This creates a personal scent bridge between partners that helps to revive the arousal response.
Great alternative to taking supplements daily, in addition to enhancing every kiss, they awaken the body’s own sensual drive.
The essentials are diluted to 1%, so they are safe to use anywhere on the body—they’re great for kissing, sensuous massage, oral pleasure, or internal lubrication (though oils are not latex condom compatible, which is printed on the bottle, they can be used with polyurethane and sheepskin condoms).
With three distinct blends, our love oils are specifically blending to not only recreate the scent path to arousal, but also act as an emotionally healing force within the relationship.
Origins Love Oil – The first note of scent most people recognize is a spicy layer on top, which is black pepper (this oil is naturally warming). The middle note is a woody, deep smoky scent, which is sandalwood and clary sage. These are both ancient aphrodisiacs. The bottom note is a sweet flower ylang ylang, which may take a moment for them to recognize.
Indian Spice Love Oil – The first note of this scent that is most easily recognizable is cinnamon bark which is sweet and warming, the middle notes are made up of Frankincense and Clary Sage, which are earthy and woody, the base note is cardamom and clove. Cardamom was once more valuable than gold for its aphrodisiac qualities.
Caribbean Rose Love Oil – The top note of this oil is three different forms of rose which opens the heart. The bottom note is a grounding mossy earthy scent which is vetiver, an ancient Caribbean aphrodisiac. The middle note is a Frankincense, which has meditative and heart opening qualities.
All Good Clean Love Oils are made with a vitamin E antioxidant which keeps products fresh at least two years.