I had mixed feelings about vibrators when I first started my love products business and was learning about the adult industry. I always believed skin to skin contact was best and had heard errant reports about the over use of vibrators which lead to some women being unable to orgasm without one. After exhibiting at a few lingerie shows, I had seen the dizzying array of selection in every imaginable color and size. I never felt compelled to take one home, until one afternoon when I met the founder of Lelo, Erik, a handsome Swedish guy who came to my booth, happy to trade for a variety of love products. He gave me a Lily, one of the line’s best selling pleasure objects, to try out. Little did I know that would be the beginning of a love affair with this company and their beautiful pleasure objects.
What is not to love when a company’s mission is ‘blending fashion, femininity, engineering and design, our aim is to create objects not just functional, but seductive in their own right. Lust objectified to inspire a positive and confident sexuality.’
Still it wasn’t until I tried it out that I knew that I had found a product line with the same integrity, attention to detail and quality that I was committed to developing for myself.
The Lily, is a small and luxurious piece which has a motor, so quiet that it purrs at its lowest settings and hums as you bring it up through the fifteen speeds. While some women who need more power might not find this exciting enough, for me the initiate, it was quite the experience. Additionally, my husband was also intrigued, because the same ergonomic shape which makes it a perfect fit in the panty, also serves a great up and down motion on a shaft. The lily became a regular part of our late night dates. One charge lasts for 7 hours, which was great, because even if I was forgetful about plugging it back in- it was on the ready. This best selling piece is available in a variety of finishes and colors.
As with any innovative company which by its existence defines the market, you know that the products will get better. The new second generations of Lelo’s do not disappoint. In addition to their new 27 speed motor they also now have 5 different and rotating ‘pleasure patterns’. Available in a variety of designs and colors, this size and shape of the Lilv and the Gigi are the ultimate in first time pleasure experiences. The Gigi is specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot. Both vibrators have a silky smooth silicone finish and A 2 hour charge can provide up to 1.5 hours of bliss. All the Lelo pleasure objects come in an elegant gift box with charger, manual, satin pouch and the 1-year LELO warranty.
Their newest model, the Elise, makes me wish it was Christmas sooner, although I am sure I will have to find another excuse to try her out, (for educational review purposes of course). With this newest model of pleasure object, luxury and function take a giant leap. With amazing surface capacity and depth, an almost silent motor and few new features like a red light display when it needs recharging, this vibrator invites you to really explore feminine desire and capacity for orgasm.
If you are going to add an accessory to your love life, take the high road. Where is luxury more important than in your most erogenous zones? Save money on shampoo if you have to, but don’t skimp on what you use to love yourself. I promote Lelo products like my own, because I have seen the impact they have made on my own love life and I can guarantee that any model of the pleasure objects you choose is sure to bring you hours of pleasure that will surprise you and inspire your love.
Take a minute to learn about harmful chemicals in some dildos and vibrators here:
By far the biggest category of adult products, after pornography, is the production and sale of vibrating toys. The majority, over 70 percent are made in China and sold all over the world with a remarkable lack of oversight. A report in 2001 by CBC suggested that the North American market alone is worth $400 to $500 million. These estimates are probably conservative in an industry that is hardly tracked because all the companies are privately held and even pornography revenue is generally significantly underestimated. It is safe to say though, that adult novelties are products that everyone wants, but no one is really willing to talk about.
While there has been some press on the bad effects of vibrators and the dependence that some women develop on them for being able to find orgasm, they have also been profoundly instrumental in allowing women to have an orgasm in the first place. In fact, a little bit of recently uncovered history has linked the invention of vaginal vibrators to the Victorian physicians who were treating women with ‘hysteria’ and bringing them to orgasm as a form of health care. The recently released documentary ‘Passion and Power: the Technology of Orgasm’ tells the story of both the development of vibrators and their influence on the female experience of orgasm.
The range of options available is dizzying�. One can find vibrators and like products in every color, size and material from soft and squishy to titanium. Even the categories of vibrators and dildos can fill a web page- every thing from clitoral, missile, waterproof, vibrating erection rings and the lists go on- With over 12 percent of the internet devoted to adult themes- it is hard to know even where to begin to find out the answers to even the most basic questions. There are a few couple friendly websites that are tasteful yet informative that you might want to consider paging through- www.freddyandeddy.com is a great resource and owned by some friends who always have something to teach me about the range of products and info available. Another, www.wildinsecret.com has a tasteful and discretionary tone and has a pretty good blog as well.
The majority of adult products are made with plastics which although stating the obvious is an important consideration as you become a consumer. Sadly, the lack of regulation and oversight in this industry has created a glut of products which have been found to be extremely dangerous, with both low quality ingredients and bad plastics which off-gas and leak nasty chemicals. This video by Treehugger.com has the low-down!
European studies of adult toys have shown extremely high levels of off- gassing of dangerous chemicals like phthalates in very high concentrations and that even in small levels have been linked to cancer and damage of the reproductive system. Being an intelligent and conscious consumer of adult products is an absolute necessity in this unregulated market- so please consider this a health warning and ask about the ingredients and the coating on the soft jelly and ‘cyber skin’ items which are popular and often made with cheap PVC. As bad as these ingredients may be for the environment, they are even worse for sensitive tissue.
All of that said, there are some really great eco friendly and safe toys to use that can add excitement and novelty to the bedroom. As in any industry- you get what you pay for, and when I first brought home some cheap phallic shaped vibrators, my husband was uninspired to say the least. So be prepared to invest in toys that are responsibly made, luxuriously beautiful, functional and long lasting. Moving up in price point, moves you from shopping for a vibrator to selecting a pleasure object� a distinction definitely worth the investment.
A couple of my favorite companies in the mid and upper price ranges include two European manufacturers- The German Fun Factory and the Swedish manufacturer Lelo. Both of these companies offer a wide range of styles and shapes to engage most any couple. These more upscale vibrators use plug in chargers instead of batteries and offer much quieter motors with up to 16 different speed variations. There are always new designs coming out and I am really excited to add a couple of the new designs to our offerings- especially the new gigi, which promises almost certain success for any woman trying to find and understand the g-spot.
Accessories can get your imagination rolling and as Einstein said, ‘Imagination is more important than knowledge’. Certainly when it comes to physical intimacy, allowing our imaginations a bit of free reign can only help to unleash some undiscovered passion. I have become a vibrator affecionado, always ready to expand my repertoire to include more and different sensations and my beautiful lelos provide inspiration and some new ideas to explore what had been uncharted territory. Which is the point of all the millions of dollars of adult novelties- finding more and better ways to share deep personal pleasure that is the glue for holding all of the messy parts of loving relationships together.
Shopping and wondering about toys together can be a great appetizer to the main course. In addition to the other sites mentioned, www.goodcleanlove.com offers a wide array of health conscious and eco-friendly love products and toys.
Good Clean Love products are made entirely of natural ingredients. Our oil formulas are rich in essential fatty acid content. All of our base oils are extremely nourishing to the skin, with the ability to soften, smooth and heal the skin. Several of the oils, including apricot kernel and jojoba, closely resemble human sebum which is the natural coating our body produces to protect the skin. Jojoba oil can actually penetrate the skin, because it is identified as sebum. The essential oil formulas in our products are made with pure essential oils from all over the world. We use organic and wild crafted oils whenever possible. All of our dilutions are 1.5% and are blended with the psychodynamic influences of the oils along with their scent in mind. Essential oils have been used by lovers since earliest recorded civilizations for their subtle yet deep powers to give voice to the emotional, awaken the sensual and guide passions to true union
Lubrication is a fact of life. In any relationship where working parts are at play, whether it be an engine, a dinner party or an evening of love, everything works better when it is well oiled. Lubrication allows for glide, ease and effectiveness. When lubrication is working well, it is invisible, a thought we don’t have. When it isn’t working, we know it immediately, although not always by its name. An engine without oil locks up in minutes, awkward silence and uncomfortable gazing down into the lap is immediately recognizable.
The scent of desire, it turns out has more to do with our biological imperative than we might have ever imagined. That magical x factor in seeking and connecting to your special someone is actually right under your nose- or at least in it. Author Rachel Herz’s new book The Scent of Desire will be the first of many volumes on the often overlooked olfactory system that will forever change how we think about our relationships. And even though I have long been promoting smell as our primary sexual sense, I had no idea that its reach went to the very core of the species regeneration.
“My hope is that people will see that a little shift of habit can make a difference; And that small changes we make can add up to make a big impact. And most of all that you don’t have to give up a lot to make a difference. Try one less paper napkin a day. We use on average 6 per day, 2200 a year. If we all gave up one a day we’d save 1 billion pounds of paper waste from going to the landfills per year. It’s just that easy!!”- Elizabeth Rogers and Thomas Kostigen, authors of The Green Book.
This small encyclopedia of over 400 everyday solutions and easy lifestyle changes is a friendly and practical guide to respecting the planet and its resources. I was glad that I had the opportunity to review it for one of my other writing posts at Green Girls Global, an international collection of featured bloggers who have remarkable ideas about sustainable living. As an avid reader of the many green sites on the web, I didn’t think that this book would surprise me. It did!