Moments like these when you win, but end up losing through no fault of your own make you question the goodness of life. And yet, they are not as rare as we wish they were. The truth is that even in our shining moments, life can and will throw you bad calls.

I have always liked the idea of aspiration.  I like the feel of it as it rolls off my tongue and I have always held the meaning dearly of a heartfelt reaching towards something high or great.

Life is made of moments of unraveling. There are good reasons everyday that things come undone, but perhaps none so painful as the un-doing of our most intimate relationships.

“Betrayal can only happen if you love.”    John Le Carre

If ever an expression defined human behavior, it is the notion that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. Ovid, an ancient Roman philosopher and poet was perhaps the first when he said that “the harvest is always more fruitful in another man’s fields.” This sense that life is better for others has perhaps its strongest and most debilitating hold on us as it affects our relationships. Infidelity, the most cutting breach of trust that we experience in our intimate relationships is rampant. It is so common that not having some form of the experience is uncommon. While the stories of infidelity are as unique as the millions of people who engage in them - our shared human biology, emotional needs and the thinking errors that allow them - are universal.