Announcing Good Clean Love’s 2nd Edition: Chemistry Without Chemicals

Friday, April 9th, 2010

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Our new packaging, in inviting fresh colors, is empowered with a new strong, clean logo which emphasizes the “good”-ness of the products. The new tagline, “Chemistry Without Chemicals” states directly to consumers that love products and petrochemicals don’t mix. The new package design revises the periodic table of elements and applies them to love, which the company believes will target a wider demographic to include younger people just beginning to look for intimacy products.

Founder Wendy Strgar said, “We believe that our new packaging will speak more directly to the consumer the moment they see how good the ingredients are for them on the shelf. Connecting goodness and love feels important and true to us.”

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Study Finds that More Than 50% of the Nation Use Vibrators

Monday, July 6th, 2009

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Two studies by the Indiana University found that 53 percent of women and 45 percent of men aged 18-60 use vibrators during sexual play.

Do these numbers surprise you? If so, you might be interested to find out that not only is vibrator use more common than most think, but according to these studies, its use is linked to positive sexuality and increased care for one’s sexual health.

Vibrators have been recommended by therapists and physicians alike, though even under “doctor’s orders” most people still have a blushing association with these sex tools. These findings, from the Center for Sexual Health Promotion in IU’s School of Health, Physical Education and Recreation, are the first of their kind to be published.

According to Indiana University’s press release, Michael Reece, director of the Center for Sexual health Promotion, said that the results are important because” both studies help us to further understand the way in which American consumers are turning to the marketplace for products that promote their sexual health, and that has important economic implications.”

The survey responses came from 2,056 women and 1,047 men nationwide:

For women:

  • More than half of the women (52.5 percent) had used a vibrator with nearly one in four having done so in the past month.
  • Vibrator users were significantly more likely to have had a gynecological exam during the past year and to have performed genital self-examination during the previous month.
  • Vibrator use was positively related to several aspects of sexual function (desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, pain and overall function) with recent vibrator users scoring themselves higher on most sexual function domains, suggesting more positive sexual function.
  • Most women (71.5 percent) reported having never experienced any side effects associated with vibrator use. Those side effects that were reported were typically rare and of a short duration.

For men:

  • The prevalence of men who had incorporated a vibrator into sexual activities during their lives was 44.8 percent, with no statistical differences between the rates of vibrator use between men who identified as heterosexual and those who identified as gay or bisexual.
  • Heterosexual men most commonly reported having used vibrators during foreplay or intercourse with a female partner, with 91 percent of those who had used a vibrator reporting that they had done so during such activities with women.
  • Of men who have used vibrators, 10 percent had done so in the past month, 14.2 percent in the past year and 20.5 percent more than one year ago.
  • Men who reported having used vibrators, particularly those with more recent use, were more likely to report participation in sexual health promoting behaviors, such as testicular self-exam.
  • Men who had used vibrators recently also scored themselves higher on four of the five domains of sexual function, as measured by the International Index of Erectile Function (erectile function, intercourse satisfaction, orgasmic function and sexual desire).

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Book Review: Sex Comes First

Wednesday, June 24th, 2009

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I have advocated sex as healing tool for years now. The longer that I am married, the more it seems true that the discussions following sex are more honest, more pointed and more connected than any conversation before hand. Indeed the physical conversation in deep sexuality is a language unto itself and has the power to untangle and unwind many emoitshed superfluous layers. After sex we talk about the real issues, having already resolved the painful feelings that have built upon our disconnection.

When my review copy of Sex Comes First- 15 Ways to Save Your Relationship Without Leaving Your Bedroom arrived, my interest was piqued in the introduction. The very first lines of the book link copulation and coupling as the intrinsic foundation of a fulfilling relationship. The author, Joel Block, PhD turns the typical therapy process of “feel something and then do something” on its head with his premise that by “doing something, you create the feelings”. The unstated “something” is sex. The book provides step by step directions for a variety of sexual encounters to deal with a wide range of emotional issues.

The book covers all of the major issues that most couples face at some point in their relationship including anger, jealousy, trust, poor communication, and infidelity among others. The initial discussion on each issue provides explanation of using those emotional experiences to your advantage or disadvantage. The book presumes that the reader wants to improve their relationship. Different sexual therapeutic practices are recommended for each of the different issues. It would take a real commitment to your relationship to be willing to try some of them if you were deep in the throes of emotional turmoil.

I actually believe that “The right sexual act at the right time can actually help resolve many of your issues as a couple today.” I also believe that if we understood the power of deep and transformative sexuality and reserved it for the people we are working to love, we would all inhabit a different plane together. So if you are in a situation where you keep looking at the door, or are faced with more doubts than belief in your relationship, pick this book up and try a few of the exercises. You might just realize that the answer to your problems was right there in your bedroom all along.

Love Products

Friday, April 17th, 2009

I have a cool job, or as my fifteen year old son would correct me, it is fresh. I get to imagine and then sell amazing love products. My husband bought in to the concept because he of course gets to be the primary tester. This is a real perk in a love products company. I have learned a lot about product formulation and ingredients over the years, but what I have learned about love and marriage has been even more inspiring. So here is the big key that I wish someone had told me years ago: the more you love your partner, the more loving they become. Ever since I started this little love business, our marriage has improved steadily and our sex life is better than any other married couple I know.

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The 2009 Toy of the Year– The We-Vibe!

Friday, April 17th, 2009

With all the recent buzz revolving around the We-Vibe, here at Good Clean Love we thought what better time to check out this revolutionary piece of machinery than National Orgasm Day.
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Wendy’s Picks: Pleasure Objects

Friday, April 17th, 2009

I had mixed feelings about vibrators when I first started my love products business and was learning about the adult industry. I always believed skin to skin contact was best and had heard errant reports about the over use of vibrators which lead to some women being unable to orgasm without one. After exhibiting at a few lingerie shows, I had seen the dizzying array of selection in every imaginable color and size. I never felt compelled to take one home, until one afternoon when I met the founder of Lelo, Erik, a handsome Swedish guy who came to my booth, happy to trade for a variety of love products. He gave me a Lily, one of the line’s best selling pleasure objects, to try out. Little did I know that would be the beginning of a love affair with this company and their beautiful pleasure objects.

What is not to love when a company’s mission is ‘blending fashion, femininity, engineering and design, our aim is to create objects not just functional, but seductive in their own right. Lust objectified to inspire a positive and confident sexuality.’

Still it wasn’t until I tried it out that I knew that I had found a product line with the same integrity, attention to detail and quality that I was committed to developing for myself.

The Lily, is a small and luxurious piece which has a motor, so quiet that it purrs at its lowest settings and hums as you bring it up through the fifteen speeds. While some women who need more power might not find this exciting enough, for me the initiate, it was quite the experience. Additionally, my husband was also intrigued, because the same ergonomic shape which makes it a perfect fit in the panty, also serves a great up and down motion on a shaft. The lily became a regular part of our late night dates. One charge lasts for 7 hours, which was great, because even if I was forgetful about plugging it back in- it was on the ready. This best selling piece is available in a variety of finishes and colors.

As with any innovative company which by its existence defines the market, you know that the products will get better. The new second generations of Lelo’s do not disappoint. In addition to their new 27 speed motor they also now have 5 different and rotating ‘pleasure patterns’. Available in a variety of designs and colors, this size and shape of the Lilv and the Gigi are the ultimate in first time pleasure experiences. The Gigi is specifically designed to stimulate the g-spot. Both vibrators have a silky smooth silicone finish and A 2 hour charge can provide up to 1.5 hours of bliss. All the Lelo pleasure objects come in an elegant gift box with charger, manual, satin pouch and the 1-year LELO warranty.

Their newest model, the Elise, makes me wish it was Christmas sooner, although I am sure I will have to find another excuse to try her out, (for educational review purposes of course). With this newest model of pleasure object, luxury and function take a giant leap. With amazing surface capacity and depth, an almost silent motor and few new features like a red light display when it needs recharging, this vibrator invites you to really explore feminine desire and capacity for orgasm.

If you are going to add an accessory to your love life, take the high road. Where is luxury more important than in your most erogenous zones? Save money on shampoo if you have to, but don’t skimp on what you use to love yourself. I promote Lelo products like my own, because I have seen the impact they have made on my own love life and I can guarantee that any model of the pleasure objects you choose is sure to bring you hours of pleasure that will surprise you and inspire your love.

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The Buzz on Vibrators

Thursday, April 16th, 2009

Take a minute to learn about harmful chemicals in some dildos and vibrators here:

Click here to view the safe, non-phlalate pleasure objects Good Clean Love sells.

By far the biggest category of adult products, after pornography, is the production and sale of vibrating toys. The majority, over 70 percent are made in China and sold all over the world with a remarkable lack of oversight. A report in 2001 by CBC suggested that the North American market alone is worth $400 to $500 million. These estimates are probably conservative in an industry that is hardly tracked because all the companies are privately held and even pornography revenue is generally significantly underestimated. It is safe to say though, that adult novelties are products that everyone wants, but no one is really willing to talk about.

While there has been some press on the bad effects of vibrators and the dependence that some women develop on them for being able to find orgasm, they have also been profoundly instrumental in allowing women to have an orgasm in the first place. In fact, a little bit of recently uncovered history has linked the invention of vaginal vibrators to the Victorian physicians who were treating women with ‘hysteria’ and bringing them to orgasm as a form of health care. The recently released documentary ‘Passion and Power: the Technology of Orgasm’ tells the story of both the development of vibrators and their influence on the female experience of orgasm.

The range of options available is dizzying�. One can find vibrators and like products in every color, size and material from soft and squishy to titanium. Even the categories of vibrators and dildos can fill a web page- every thing from clitoral, missile, waterproof, vibrating erection rings and the lists go on- With over 12 percent of the internet devoted to adult themes- it is hard to know even where to begin to find out the answers to even the most basic questions. There are a few couple friendly websites that are tasteful yet informative that you might want to consider paging through- www.freddyandeddy.com is a great resource and owned by some friends who always have something to teach me about the range of products and info available. Another, www.wildinsecret.com has a tasteful and discretionary tone and has a pretty good blog as well.

The majority of adult products are made with plastics which although stating the obvious is an important consideration as you become a consumer. Sadly, the lack of regulation and oversight in this industry has created a glut of products which have been found to be extremely dangerous, with both low quality ingredients and bad plastics which off-gas and leak nasty chemicals. This video by Treehugger.com has the low-down!

European studies of adult toys have shown extremely high levels of off- gassing of dangerous chemicals like phthalates in very high concentrations and that even in small levels have been linked to cancer and damage of the reproductive system. Being an intelligent and conscious consumer of adult products is an absolute necessity in this unregulated market- so please consider this a health warning and ask about the ingredients and the coating on the soft jelly and ‘cyber skin’ items which are popular and often made with cheap PVC. As bad as these ingredients may be for the environment, they are even worse for sensitive tissue.

All of that said, there are some really great eco friendly and safe toys to use that can add excitement and novelty to the bedroom. As in any industry- you get what you pay for, and when I first brought home some cheap phallic shaped vibrators, my husband was uninspired to say the least. So be prepared to invest in toys that are responsibly made, luxuriously beautiful, functional and long lasting. Moving up in price point, moves you from shopping for a vibrator to selecting a pleasure object� a distinction definitely worth the investment.

A couple of my favorite companies in the mid and upper price ranges include two European manufacturers- The German Fun Factory and the Swedish manufacturer Lelo. Both of these companies offer a wide range of styles and shapes to engage most any couple. These more upscale vibrators use plug in chargers instead of batteries and offer much quieter motors with up to 16 different speed variations. There are always new designs coming out and I am really excited to add a couple of the new designs to our offerings- especially the new gigi, which promises almost certain success for any woman trying to find and understand the g-spot.

Accessories can get your imagination rolling and as Einstein said, ‘Imagination is more important than knowledge’. Certainly when it comes to physical intimacy, allowing our imaginations a bit of free reign can only help to unleash some undiscovered passion. I have become a vibrator affecionado, always ready to expand my repertoire to include more and different sensations and my beautiful lelos provide inspiration and some new ideas to explore what had been uncharted territory. Which is the point of all the millions of dollars of adult novelties- finding more and better ways to share deep personal pleasure that is the glue for holding all of the messy parts of loving relationships together.

Shopping and wondering about toys together can be a great appetizer to the main course. In addition to the other sites mentioned, www.goodcleanlove.com offers a wide array of health conscious and eco-friendly love products and toys.

The Dip: A Book Worth Reading

Sunday, January 27th, 2008

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If you haven’t yet read this cute little book by Seth Godin, I urge you to look for it on Amazon today. I have read several of his other books and always walk away with an ah ha feeling. “This little book teaches you when to quit and when to stick…” and as I turned the pages couldn’t help but feel like the teachings had direct application to relationships and the issues that I hammer on all the time about learning to make your most important relationships sustainable.

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Eat, Pray, Love

Tuesday, September 11th, 2007

Eat, Pray, Love - Here are the essentials of life rolled into one very beautiful and articulate woman’s journey. She shares personal stories in ways that make them universal and provides descriptions of life events large and small that make us realize how universal our experience actually is. Her personal search and moments of peace reminded me of my own, I only wished that I had been able to be as articulate as she is, page after page on what it is to experience the world and come up loving and believing.

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The Green Book: Simple Ways to Save the Planet

Thursday, July 19th, 2007

“My hope is that people will see that a little shift of habit can make a difference; And that small changes we make can add up to make a big impact. And most of all that you don’t have to give up a lot to make a difference. Try one less paper napkin a day. We use on average 6 per day, 2200 a year. If we all gave up one a day we’d save 1 billion pounds of paper waste from going to the landfills per year. It’s just that easy!!”- Elizabeth Rogers and Thomas Kostigen, authors of The Green Book.

This small encyclopedia of over 400 everyday solutions and easy lifestyle changes is a friendly and practical guide to respecting the planet and its resources. I was glad that I had the opportunity to review it for one of my other writing posts at Green Girls Global, an international collection of featured bloggers who have remarkable ideas about sustainable living. As an avid reader of the many green sites on the web, I didn’t think that this book would surprise me. It did!

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